Choose A Family : Parent Profile
Hart
Hello!
There is a song by a writer I love called “verge of a miracle.” I love those words because they capture what this could be: a true miracle. In the midst of what may be swirling emotions inside you, choosing adoption for your child is an act of love and evidence of your dedication to your baby.
I want you to know that I feel such peace and calmness and joy about my decision to adopt. I took several years to think, to read, to research, to pray, and even to add to my education before I began this process. I know that being a single mother will bring some unique challenges – and some unique gifts – to a family. I have shared by decision with my family and closest friends and asked them to be a nurturing, helping presence in my child’s life one day and everyone has said, “of course!” One day, if I meet the right man, I would love to be married, but right now, I am ready to be a mother.
Family
When we are together, we are having fun! My dad has always been a favorite among my friends. He’s the one who is always ready for any activity or get-together, always ready to go!
My sister, Megan, is one of the funniest people I know and always quick with a joke or a funny story.
When I am with my mom and step-dad, we can talk and laugh for hours! Some of the most fun days I’ve had have been my birthday. Growing up, my mother would start the day with my breakfast on a special red plate that said “You Are Special” and for the rest of the day, I would find surprises from her reminding me that she was happy it was my birthday. Things like that still make me smile and I hope to be the same kind of mother, one who infuses fun into a child’s life on special and ordinary days.
For years, my mother has said that we are “rich in love.” The best expression of our family’s love is that we are there for each other. When good things happen, we celebrate together, and when disappointments happen, we help, but we are always there for each other. No matter what!
My family is so excited about welcoming a child into our family! They think about having a child at our vacations and Christmases and Sunday lunches and often start their sentences, “When the baby is here…” To put is simply, my family is excited and supportive and ready!
Traditions with Family & Friends
Even as a little girl, I knew our traditions were important. Some were simple, like Sunday lunch. Every week, my family went to an old favorite restaurant. My grandfather would shake hands with the owners and waiters and we would linger at the table long after we finished lunch, the adults drinking coffee and the children coloring and listening to the “grown-up talk.” Some traditions I grew into, like our annual Mistletoe Marketplace, a Christmas festival where we live. Every year in November, I watched my mother and grandmother leave for a special day of early Christmas shopping. My sister and I would beg to be able to go, too, and my mom would tell us we could when we were older. Finally, that day came and my mom picked us up early from school…that was about twenty years ago and we haven’t missed year since and I can’t wait to bring my along as well! Every Fall, I look forward to that time with the women of my family and one day, the next generation will be a part of that tradition, too.
While we honor the traditions of our past, my family also embraces change and new traditions. A few years ago, we started having a big party the day after Christmas with all of our best friends. Even though it’s a little different, we have found that right after Christmas is a great time for relaxing and visiting, and it works for us. Every year, the party seems to get bigger and bigger, with everyone sharing Christmas stories and talking together late into the night. The kids all bring their favorite toy from Santa, and it is a time of laid-back contentment and joy.
Home Sweet Home
I live in a fairly new three bedroom , two bathroom, single family home at the end of a cul-de-sac in a neighborhood full of families. On most afternoons, you will see children riding their bikes in the street, playing basketball, or neighbors working in their yards. My neighborhood is tucked away in a quiet part of town, but very close to restaurants, grocery stores, and schools.
On a regular day, I have a flexible work schedule. Either before or after work, I go to a Pilates or yoga class or I will go for a walk in my neighborhood. On the weekends, on of my favorite things to do is to get together with friends and their families for dinner and game night.
Every summer, my town has a big outdoor event with games and carnival rides and a big outdoor concert. I have gone almost every year since I was a little girl and it is a fun event to look forward to at the beginning of the summer. We also have several outdoor art festivals throughout the year in a nearby art district. People come with their families and there is a fun neighborhood vibe with food and activities set up on the sidewalks.
On Sunday, I attend a mid-size church with people of diverse backgrounds and lifestyles. The church is warm, welcoming, friendly, and inclusive of all types of people. the children’s area at my church is soothing, nurturing, and staffed by parents and other adults with experience working with children.
About Hart by her Sister
My childhood memories are filled with wonderful moments I shared with Hart: wearing matching dresses and bows on Sundays, giggling in a shared bed as we stayed up past our bedtime, creating a “Secret Sister Promise” sign, spending summer days in the playhouse our grandfather built for us, and riding our bikes through the neighborhood to swim team practice. Our experiences over the past several years have grown deeper and richer, but one thing remains the same - life is always better when Hart is around!
Hart will be an amazing mother! My sister is generous, thoughtful, encouraging, determined, patient, wise, and loving. The love she has shared with me is just a fraction of what she will share with your child, and I know she already loves her unconditionally. It truly is a privilege to call myself Hart’s sister, and I am so excited about the day I will be able to call myself Aunt Megan.
Final Thoughts
Thank you for considering me as the adoptive parent of your child! I hope you feel you have gotten to know me a little. I look forward to getting to know you as we walk this path together. When I think about being a parent, I of course think about the big things: teaching a child to have values, planning for college, helping a child learn to make friend. But, mostly, I look forward to all the little things: making a bottle, changing diapers, packing a lunch, helping with spelling, reading a good-night story. I think there are many ways people become family, and adoption is one of the most amazing.
Sincerely,
Hart
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